I’ve always struggled with keeping motivated. I find I quickly become disheartened when things don’t quite pan out the way I expect, or don’t come as easy as I want. This is something that I’ve had to work on a lot over the years, to try and push myself to complete things I’ve set my mind to.

At the moment I’m feeling pretty unmotivated to write a blog post, hence the chosen topic of today. I know in order to keep momentum going I need to ensure I am writing regularly however, I’m unwell, and the thought of trying to edit the photos I have, and get my post prepped is extremely draining. I’m also not the type to post something for the sake of it, my heart needs to be truly in it.

In today’s society it seems as if everyone is achieving one aspect or another, of their dream. It’s a fight to the top and most people are participating. If you aren’t someone who is innately driven or motivated, it can be pretty hard to keep on track. With the way social media is going, we are also constantly comparing ourselves to one another, and it is hard to stay true to ourselves, as we aim to be like “that girl” on Instagram or in the magazines.

I was talking to a friend the other day about how I had this idea about a potential career change. It would slot in with my background skills and be easy enough. It was something I would find exciting and challenging, however I know I would also be good at it. The only thing that was stopping me, is that a lot of people have recently had the same idea, and therefore the competition is pretty large out there. A mutual acquaintance had just launched their new business – it was pretty similar to what I had just been discussing with my friend. Immediately my little dream was crushed, “I can’t do that now” I thought to myself. I opened up to a friend who said “Why not? Just do you, who cares about other people, no one owns the idea “. She was right, I was being silly by thinking, “Well if someone I know is doing it, I can’t do it too.” If we don’t chase our dreams, no one else is going to.

At the moment that idea is on the back burner, as I begin to establish some other areas I’m trying to focus on. It’s great to have those positive influences in your life, so you can get that self doubt out your head at times.

As I mentioned before, I tend to push myself to do things, I don’t always want to do. I’m generally a pretty self aware and self regulated person (although I can be hard on myself), so I talk myself into doing things, I know I really should get done. Whether that involves my every day job, catching up with people, completing tasks and chores, or meeting deadlines, I’m constantly telling myself I need to get it done. The way I do this, is by setting small goals.

By breaking up your end goal, into smaller steps, they seem a lot more tangible and easier to achieve. This is something I learnt by speaking to an amazing life coach Kate Caddle. At the time, I was setting these small goals for things I really didn’t want to do, but for some reason, I wasn’t setting them for the dreams I wanted to make happen. Kate explained that I needed to stop being “afraid” and take a risk, otherwise I would never know what I could achieve. Essentially I would always be sitting there hoping and dreaming, instead of making things happen.

I’ve found recently that I’ve been retreating back to the old me. Setting mini goals for things I don’t enjoy, but have to complete. While I worked with Kate, she based my top 3 goals, on how I wanted to feel. For example instead of  “I want to lose weight and be skinny”, I would set my goal as “I want to feel light and healthy”. I haven’t seen or spoken to Kate in months, however her way of creating goals has stuck with me, and I’m continuing to work on it, even if I do get side tracked at times.

In regards to the current goals I would like to achieve, I have broken them up into a number of “actions”, that I will take, to achieve them. By setting these mini actions, along with time frames, I become 1 step closer to my goal each time.

I hope this blog post helped some of you, who are feeling a bit unmotivated lately. Although I set out writing this post about how I was currently feeling, it also reminded me of the skills I know, and need to continue to apply to my life, in order to stay motivated.

If you’re after some inspirational websites, check out Kate Caddle and Melissa Ambrosini. Melissa also has an excellent book called “Mastering Your Mean Girl”.


Since my last skin care post, my routine has changed up quite a bit. I sadly found that my skin began to react to the products I was using, and in turn, the break outs were continuing. 

I decided something had to change, as I was spending so much money without the desired result. 

After walking into the Skin Boutique in Browns Bay, I got talking to one of the staff there, about my skin. She explained that because I was using multiple products all with AHA’s in them, I was actually over stimulating my skin and it was causing me to continue breaking out. My skin was producing more oil because it was being exfoliated so much. 

Falan introduced me to Ultraceuticals. Although Skin Boutique also stocks the products I was using, she explained that for my skin type and concerns, that these products could be more beneficial. 

Falan was extremely knowledgable about Ultraceuticals as a brand and product, she was able to explain why exactly, they are her favourite skincare brand to use and I was convinced. 

We booked in a skin consultation the next week, where she looked at my skin a bit closer and organised a new regime for me, that was a lot simpler. 

After 2 weeks I began to notice a difference and now 3 months later, after consistently using their products and receiving monthly Environ skin peels, I’ve noticed a drastic difference (plus it helped that I stopped picking so much). Although my new skincare regime still includes products with AHA’s, it is not like before where EVERY single product basically contained it. 

Finally my skin has begun to clear up, I get the odd spot here and there, and still have a little congestion, but it is no way near as bad as it used to be. I’m so glad that when I wear makeup I’m not having to pack it on to try and conceal a ridiculous amount of breakouts and scarring. 

For the first 3 months, my regime included:

Ultraceuticals: Ultra Clear Foaming Cleanser

I thoroughly enjoy using this cleaner as it’s light and silky, whilst still cleaning deep into the pores. My skin does not feel dry or tight after cleansing, instead it is left feeling soft and clean.

I still continue to use my trusty Environ Pre-cleanse, and I follow up with 1 pump of the Ultra Clear Foaming Cleanser, both morning and night.

Ultraceuticals: Ultra Clear Treatment Lotion

I absolutely love this product, and believe it truly contributed to decongesting my skin. This treatment helps to minimise breakouts and also prevent them from occurring. I noticed my skin started to look a lot less angry, and everything began to calm down. At first there were some breakouts, however I was informed this may occur, in order to let the congestion surface and come out of the skin.

I would use 1 pump of this product after cleansing, all over the face, and follow up with my moisturiser. I only use once a day, before bed.

Ultraceuticals: Ultra Moisturiser Cream

This moisturiser is just a great neutral all rounder. It is extremely nourishing, without being too heavy and leaves the skin feeling soft and supple. I was applying both morning and night, however have switched to applying it only at night after my Ultra Clear Treatment Lotion, to keep my skin nourished and hydrated.

Ultraceuticals: Ultra UV Protective Daily Moisturiser SPF30 Hydrating

I added this product into my routine about a month into the change. I was a bit concerned about breaking out from the SPF, as I had always heard horror stories. It can be especially daunting when you are buying a full sized product and spending a decent amount of money, if it does not work for you. After my facial treatments, Falan would often use this afterwards, so I figured it would be fine. I had never used an SPF before, and always just relied on the SPF in my makeup products.

I’ve really enjoyed using this, as it is a fantastic lightweight moisturiser. I use 1 pump each morning after cleansing, and it continues to leave my skin moisturised the whole day. I also love the light citrus scent in the morning, as it is very refreshing.

New products I’ve recently added into my routine:

Ultraceuticals: Ultra A Perfecting Serum Mild

After I had begun to run out of my Ultra Clear Solution Treatment, Falan introduced me to this mild Vitamin A based serum. I’ve been using it for the past 5 weeks now, and again I am thoroughly enjoying it.

I had found my skin had got to quite a good place, although it needed a little boost. We started my skincare regime out quite mild, as we wanted to build up my tolerance to some stronger products slowly. Personally I have found Vitamin A products the best on my skin, especially after being on Roaccutane a few years ago. Another benefit of Vitamin A based products, is that they not only help with breakouts, but also help to minimise fine lines and prevent ageing.

I’ve been using 1 pump of the Ultra A Perfecting Serum Mild, each morning and night after cleansing, followed by either my SPF or moisturiser. Like the previous product, I noticed my skin became decongested further, with my pore size and texture improving. My under eye area also looks a lot more supple and some pesky fine lines that were appearing are slowly fading away. I especially like how gentle, yet active these products are. You get the results without them being too harsh on the skin.

Ultraceuticals: Even Skintone Serum Mild

I am yet to try this product, as it is the newest to my collection but it will also be replacing the Ultra Clear Treatment Lotion. Falan recommended it because of its ability to exfoliate the skin, whilst fading any scarring I have. This will continue to improve skin texture and clarity, and is one step up from the previous product I was using.

I’m excited to continue to see the change in my skin, it has taken a very long time but it seems I’ve finally found something that works properly. I’m no longer getting angry looking congestion all over my forehead or cheeks. Instead I’ve got the odd spot here and there, and am continuing to repair some of the scarring that has been left after my picking sessions!

I highly recommend Ultraceuticals products. If you’re local to Browns Bay, go visit the girls at Skin Boutique. They are extremely knowledgable, genuine and welcoming.


I’ve really enjoyed seeing some of the latest fashion trends coming into stores for Autumn and Winter. I decided to create a mini post, about some essential fashion pieces to have in your wardrobe this season, that are versatile and great for layering too. I’ve included a range of coats, jackets, sweaters and dresses. I’ll be creating a separate post with accessories for the colder months.

I hope you enjoy some of my fashion must haves, comment below to let me know some of yours. 

Coats & Jackets

Kookai: Hamilton Coat

Forever New: Brody Parka

Forever New: Issy Wrap Coat

Portmans: Timeless Luxe Trench

Decjuba: Petra Shearling Coat

Leather & Denim Jackets

Just Jeans: Misha Belted Biker

Decjuba: Mercedes Leather Jacket

Glassons: Biker Jacket

Kookai: Downtown Denim Jacket

Just Jeans: Amaze Trucker Jacket

Jumpers & Cardigans

Forever New: Faux Fur Collar Cape

Portmans: Animal Print Knit

Just Jeans: Callie Tie Neck Pullover

Country Road: Spaced Stripe Knit

Witchery: Woven Back Splice Knit


Kookai: Confetti Dress

Forever New: Brooke Military Shirt Dress

Portmans: Paisley Floral Empire Dress

Decjuba: Liv Shoulder Knit Dress

Witchery: Ombre Print Dress

Leave a comment about the types of posts you would like to see. Hope you enjoyed this Autumn/Winter Fashion Must Haves.





Recently I added some new additions to my fragrance collection and thought I would share them all with you. I certainly have a perfume addiction, but who doesn’t love to smell great, right?

I’m the type of person who wears a fragrance to suit my mood, or the mood I would like for the day. If I’m feeling all bright and girly I may choose something sweet and fruity. When it’s a cold night out, I might gravitate towards something spicier or more unisex.

As you know from my wedding series, I got engaged in Melbourne. Well, when going through duty free I was not going to miss the opportunity to add some new perfumes into my collection, so I picked up two new Jo Malone scents.


Jo Malone: Wood Sage & Sea Salt

I’ve been wanting to add Wood Sage & Sea Salt to my collection for a while, and I am so glad I finally did. Although it is not outstanding when simply tested on a fragrance card, when spritzed on yourself, the scent begins to develop and change, and the outcome is wonderful. I find Wood Sage & Sea Salt to be quite a sophisticated and clean scent, with its notes of Ambrette Seed, Sea Salt, Sage, Grapefruit and Red Algae.

“Escape the everyday along the windswept shore. Waves breaking white, the air fresh with sea salt and spray. Alive with the mineral scent of the rugged cliffs. Mingling with the woody earthiness of sage. Lively, spirited and totally joyful.” – Jo Malone


Jo Malone: Myrrh & Tonka

This fragrance purchase was quite an impulsive one. Whilst buying the Wood Sage & Sea Salt, the sales assistant asked if I had tried their new Myrrh & Tonka Cologne Intense. Of course I had to try it and immediately told her to add it to the bag. In my case, because I was shopping duty free, I was able to purchase the fragrance in 50ml, something Jo Malone has not done before. Usually, the Jo Malone Colognes come in 30ml and 100ml. The Cologne Intense, comes in 100ml however, it seems they are changing it up by offering the 50ml now, which I am very pleased about.

The scent itself is quite oriental and warm. It has a slight smoky undertone, with a touch of sweet Tonka Bean and Vanilla. This would be a great fragrance for both men and women.

“Rich, hand-harvested sap of the Namibian myrrh tree, mingling with the warm almond and lush vanilla notes of the tonka bean. Noble and intoxicating.” – Jo Malone


Aesop: Tacit 

I fell in love with Tacit, when visiting the Aesop store in Melbourne. I had just purchased some hand cream and returned back to the hotel, when I could smell this amazing clean, yet fresh scent. I smelt the fabric bag that my hand cream and samples came in and knew immediately, they had spritzed one of their fragrances on the bag, as a finishing touch. If you have not been into an Aesop store, I highly recommend it, its such a beautiful and relaxing experience. We soon came across another store, where I asked the sales assistant what fragrances they had. Aesop have two signature scents, Marrakech and Tacit. I loved both scents, with Marrakech being very warm and spicy, although I had already purchased Jo Malone Myrrh & Tonka, so I decided it was unnecessary to have both. Tacit was very citrus and fresh when immediately sprayed, however the scent soon developed into something cleaner and more rounded. I enjoy wearing this scent when my outfit is quite simple and I’m wanting to have a fresh and uplifted day.

“Tacit is at once familiar in its citrus notes and distinctly contemporary in liberal use of Basil Grand Vert. The formulation was born of two key inspirations: the fresh notes found in traditional colognes; and the culture, topography, and fragile, perfumed vegetation of the Mediterranean coast.”  – Aesop

Giorgio Armani: Si 

If you haven’t tried Giorgio Armani Si, you need to, now. I am in love with this scent and have lusted after it for a while. When my fiancee recently went overseas, he brought it back via duty free, and I am so glad he did. This fragrance is a lot sweeter than what I usually go for, but I can’t help myself wanting to smell it throughout the day. I shouldn’t say I’m surprised, considering it has notes of Rose de Mai, Neroli and Egyptian Jasmine. There is also some Amber present in the fragrance, so this explains why I love it so much. Within the Si range, there are a few different versions such as; Si Intense and a limited edition Si Rose. I definitely recommend checking this out, if this sounds like a bit of you.

“Sì has a top note of blackcurrant nectar, a heart of freesia and Rose of Mai, with a musky blond wood base. This fragrance was created for the modern woman who’s strong yet feminine, sophisticated yet charismatic. She embodies the very essence of chic Italian elegance and style.” – Giorgio Armani

I hope you enjoyed this fragrance haul and it inspires you to add some more perfumes to your own collection.


Image sourced from darot.net

Looking back, it’s quite interesting how much my taste has changed, since first beginning to look at different wedding themes. And I am so glad for it. 

I think choosing a wedding venue can be quite stressful. Especially in today’s society if you’re living in Auckland. Housing prices are at an all time high so you need to prioritise your money pretty well. I’m definitely no expert, but I can see the strain between having your perfect venue, and being able to afford to live. 

As mentioned in my Wedding Series One | Engagement Ring post, I suggested creating screenshots of ideas and a separate album on your phone, to collect ideas. Do this with your wedding venue too, as you again will see an overall pattern of the theme you’re after.

After a few weeks of being engaged, I had booked my wedding venue and date. Because I knew the time was coming, I was quite organised and prepared. It is important to have what you want in mind, as many venues get booked up 12-18months in advance. I think it’s also important to be quite flexible, especially if you’re set on a particular venue. 

The best thing I found was searching wedding venues online, but also searching venues that had been tagged on Instagram through posts I had liked. This gave me an idea about what our professional photos could look like as well. 

I emailed a number of venues to get quotes of their pricing, and this really helped to give me an idea of what I could and couldn’t afford. I was quite realistic and knew that my dream venue would be way out of reach, so had searched for an alternative that had a similar style and feel. 

Thankfully the alternative was actually the most affordable and so all we needed to do was visit in person, to confirm our ideas. The whole process was very quick for us, as we knew what we wanted. After visiting, we looked at the dates they had available and they matched with what we were wanting. We fell in love with the structure of the venue and features they had. I could envision the overall look and they were very accommodating about hiring items, from outside vendors. 

If you’re not too sure of what you want, it might pay to arrange appointments at a number of venues. That way you are also able to compare, based on value for money and what they are able to offer you. 

I would also suggest writing a number of questions down to ask, ensure that these aren’t already answered on their website though. I found this was very helpful so we could clarify anything we needed to. 

Definitely do your research and don’t feel like you have to rush into anything. There are always options and you could always have a midweek wedding as opposed to a weekend, if necessary. Some venues offer this at a much more affordable rate, so it can be a way of cutting costs. Off-peak weddings are usually discounted too, as these are the venues quieter times. Enquire about these so you can weigh up your options wisely.